I’m
spending some time this month visiting family out of state, the first time I’ve
seen them since Thanksgiving, 2019. Grandchildren are involved.
They
live, part time, in a rural area outside New York City. It is a heavily wooded landscape
with steep and twisty narrow roads over which people hurtle at thunderous speeds
approaching 45 mph, tops. Thirty seems fast.
Sometimes
a van or truck comes toward me on a curve, dragging a trailer that veers into
my lane. Nowhere for me to go except up the sheer cliff to my right.
Hair-raising is too tame a word.
This
is a household of busy people. Both parents work at intense jobs involving
hours of pressured Zoom calls and desk work that doesn’t stop at five p.m.
Nobody reads books, anymore. I can’t see that they read anything other than
material related to their jobs, except a story to the children at bedtime,
perhaps.
You
might imagine how strange this seems to me.
I
hadn’t fully appreciated the degree to which my life is entwined with books
until I arrived here. The member of the family I knew best when he was young
had been a voracious reader. He read Lonesome Dove when he was ten. (Yes, I
allowed it.) Since then he has read widely and deeply in literature, until the
advent of children.
I
wonder if that isn’t a factor for many people. Time for thought and reflection
about who you are and why you are alive is replaced by family needs. And, of
course, electronic screens with their myriad surprises.
The
house where this family lives is surrounded by a forest of tall trees, mixed
hardwoods and conifer, with a ferny understory (and no doubt legions of lovely
ticks). The ticks appear to have significantly limited outdoor roaming in such
places as a way for kids to learn and test themselves as individuals. I’m sure
I’m not the only one who sees this as a loss worth mourning.
Which
brings me to the book I’m reading, Late Migrations by Margaret Renkl,
who lives in Tennessee and writes about Southern matters—nature and people—for
the New York Times.
In
this book, she has interwoven short essays about her family with observations
of the natural creatures who live around her, in her backyard, basically.
She
grew up in Alabama, barefoot and free to explore her natural surroundings with
her brother. Intense, compressed memories of these places and the creatures,
situations and close calls she encountered, form what I think of as the leaves
and branches of this book. The trunk would be memories of her great
grandmother, grandmother and mother. And some of her own life’s journey.
Most
of all she renders “place” as something of prime importance in a person’s life.
Often, we tend to forget that. Urban dwellers in particular disregard it. They
do not have roots where they live for the most part, and the longing for roots
somewhere steals into them gradually as the years fly along.
Those
of us who have planted ourselves in Fayette and surrounding counties will
resonate deeply to the substance in Late Migrations. Those of us who
have lived here always, or who began here, will find a lot of home and memory
in these words.
Fellow
feeling is more accessible, I think, through the written word than through any
other medium of expression. And I find it is one of the best ways we have to
diminish loneliness.
One
warning. When you encounter the essay titled “Howl,” about an old dog, prepare
to cry.
I've read through your last 4 blog posts, Babette.They engender nostalgia and also signal what can happen in a persons life with no or small notice ahead of time. I turned 75 this year, my partner 78 and we had one of the 1st health crises of our 31 year relationship. I find you a brave guide to what the future might hold. I have to add teacher as well. So, merci mille fois and I pass on a saying from one of my father's oldest friends ~ il faut vivre!
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